WHEN WE SPEAK WE ARE AFRAID OUR WORDS WILL NOT BE HEARD OR WELCOMED
WHEN WE ARE SILENT, WE ARE STILL AFRAID SO IT IS BETTER TO SPEAK UP
- Audre Lorde
One of the best way to express your feeling is by speaking up or standing up for yourself or others or any situation that might feels wrong to you instead of keeping it inside and seeing wrong happening in front of you because the day you don’t speak up for thing that matters to you is the day your freedom gets compromised. Keeping mum or silent is like you being alive but still dead.
THE BIGGEST LOSS IS NOT DEATH ITSELF BUT
WHAT DIES WITHIN US WHILE WE ARE STILL ALIVE…
Don't you think speaking up is so important in all domains of your life - career, family, relationships and anywhere for that matter.
Most of the time people don't take stand in front of their boss in office to express their ideas, to the life partner about the problem or feeling, to the parents about their dream and ultimately all these leads to negativity and makes you pessimistic.
Isn't it?
DECLAIMER!
Speaking up is not about having good communication skills. Its weird that we always think that knowing English makes you good speaker. On the contrary, it's all about how you express yourself and your feelings. It doesn't matter if you did grammatical mistakes while speaking but the fact that you took the courage and had the confidence to talk about your feelings and express your opinion which sometimes made difference in the world and inspire people.
Let me explain with example why it is sio important
Most of the people in relationship or friendship doesn't tell each other openly if they feel something differently thinking that it might can hurt or create soreness for others even though it's too small but if it's bothering you then you have to express. Otherwise this small dislikes or disagree , mismatch may act as a seed for tomorrow's tree of hatred and antipathy.
You might call it as compromising but believe me when you don't express how you feel about anything or when you don't stand up and remain vague about your opinion, that's when you keep yourself from becoming the best and stronger version of yourself
You don't even realize but with time, this small small issues will grow inside you as grudge and one day suddenly will worst out making the situation uncontrollable .
People usually don't speak up or stand for themselves because sometimes they don't have courage, confident to speak up and sometimes they are scared of loosing their self respect, of becoming victim, getting criticism by others, and moreover they are scared of getting judged or misunderstood. But don’t you think those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind.
Be real and unapologetically you!
Again speaking up or standing up for yourself doesn't always means arguing, misbehaving, raising voice but it's an art of building a rapport with the opposition and make them understand you and your opinion.
That is the only thing which matters
Most of the kids who stumble to oppose their parents opinion in home or to their friends in school tends to become more pathetic and badass while growing up.
Also speaking up is important because every individual is different, they have different beliefs, values, experiences so the way in which they may interrupt the situation cannot be the same for you. That's why making them understand your opinion in polite way works here to build strong and lasting bond. You can't always assume that people is understanding the thing the way you are and it can leads to mismatch in opinion and can affect your relationships with that person badly.
Also try to avoid explaining your views through text because sometimes it can be misleading and In my opinion expressing feelings through texts makes it less effective is many cases, because any sentence which is written can be expressed in different ways and can have different meaning according to the word which we stress.
A recent studies shows that 31 percentage of the break-ups happens due to improper communication and misunderstanding through text messages in this technology driven world.
Also note that
Speaking doesn't means it's always with another person , sometimes it can also be with your own self , it's the best exercise to practice and kind of helps in understanding yourself and what you really want. Appreciate by just talking to your inner self and thanking to yourself for being so strong-spirited and handling all the problems bravely.
Sometimes its possible that the way you feels about certain things or situations are felt by others also but they didn’t had the courage or may be platform to speak up for. By speaking you can might encourage and empower others to listen to their hearts .
Also I know many people believes that being silent is the wiser choice and I agree that speaking up in front of fools is waste of time and your energy. So decide properly when to stand up for yourself and when to be silent. Just do whatever you want to do but never have regrets for either saying something but you didn’t say neither for keeping silence when you should have spoken up.
SPEAK UP YOUR MIND LOUD AND CLEAR
LIVE LOVE LAUGH
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